I couldn't help it, last night after all the crying and anger, I emailed him. It was a short email to the effect of, "I can't believe you did this to me. Those tickets were a gift, that I've had for two years. I ASKED YOU about them when YOU were breaking up with ME, and you said they were mine. I hate you." It was worded differently, I think I used "hate" a few more times (a word I never said when he actually broke up with me, because I'm a CLASS ACT, by the way, but now I'm SAYING IT.).
He replied this morning.
He said (this is paraphrasing): "Those tickets weren't yours, they were ours. I bought them, and I never said you could have them. You didn't get in touch with me to say you were going to the concert, did you think I would throw away $250? Who did their due diligence here?" (The words "due diligence" were directly out of his email).
This is the FINAL exchange I am ever going to have with him, by the way. I'm NOT responding to his reply, I got to say my piece before. If he wants to rewrite history to suit him, then WHATEVER. These tickets were fortunately the FINAL tie in any way that I had to him.
THAT BEING SAID....
*WHITE HOT RAGE!*
I'm sorry, but... I was the person who was broken up with, and who took the break-up pretty well considering it SHATTERED MY LIFE for a few months there, and completely changed what I thought my future held. ALSO, I was broken up with on the grounds that I *WANTED TO MARRY HIM* and *LIVE WITH HIM*.... yes, for LOVING too much?! He couldn't handle that, so he ended our six-year-long relationship and all the declarations we had made before then.
WHY, as the DUMPEE, am I treated this way? Common human decency states that any gifts in the possession of the person you break up with become theirs. I mean, sure, those tickets cost $250 -- but if I had a $4000 engagement ring on my finger, who would have been allowed to keep/pawn that?! ME.
GAH. GAH!!!!!! I am so angry. Why does he get to act like the vindictive EX? That's my job, and I'm too good a person to ever do it! (Okay, that's rage talking, because the other side of it is that I'm also a mature person).
I do feel a lot better getting to vent this here though. THANK GOD I am done with him FOREVER. THANK GOD! I guess that might even be where karma is on my side -- making sure this asshole is NEVER in my life again.